It feels great to be seen as a kind and thoughtful person, but no one wants to be seen as a doormat. People pleasing misses the mark because it’s about the pleasing of the other person, rather than helping meaning you’re saying yes sometimes for all the wrong reasons.
If you’ve ever felt resentful, angry, or stressed about being asked to do something, that you said yes to, without analysing the impact of that decision on you – you could be a people pleaser.
This can put you at risk of lowered mental wellbeing, increased stress, and feelings of being taken for granted.
Luckily help is at hand and learning to say no isn’t nearly as hard as you might think.